When Your Child Can’t Sleep Because “The Earth is Dying”

10,000 teenagers worldwide showed that 75% said the future is frightening because of climate change.

Every parent of a climate-aware child knows this moment. One parent in Oregon shared: “My oldest daughter, who’s eight, is having climate distress. She’s up at night with anxiety about, you know, ‘the Earth is dying and other kids don’t care as much as I care.'” A survey of 10,000 teenagers worldwide showed that 75% said the future is frightening because of climate change.

What doesn’t work: Saying “Everything will be okay” or “Don’t worry about it.” This dismisses real concerns and teaches kids we’re not available to hear them.

What does work: The validation-first approach. Name the emotion: “It sounds like you’re really anxious about your future and I can understand why.” Then stay present without immediately problem-solving. Create connection, not false reassurance.

The Climate Mental Health Network emphasizes that validation is critical – when young people feel heard and understood, they’re more likely to continue sharing and are more receptive to guidance.

After validating, ask: “What do you need from me right now? Do you want me to help you problem-solve, or do you need me to just listen?”

The five coping strategies that actually help:

  • EXPRESS: Journal, draw, or play music
  • EXPLORE: Talk with trusted people
  • EXHALE: Deep breathing, nature time, movement
  • SPEAK UP: Take action toward solutions
  • REFRAME: Focus on what we can control

Download Climate Mental Health Network’s “13 Things To Try When Children Are Sad About The Earth